A child is born into a family first and becomes a part of the society later. And when one lives in society, living harmoniously with others becomes important―if there has to be peaceful existence, that is. There have to be certain rules that need to be in place, which determine the kind of behavior and actions that promote a peaceful existence and therefore should be encouraged and those that do not and therefore should be discouraged.
How do we learn about behavior that is acceptable to others and that which is not? One is by living in society, but the other, more important one is being taught by our family by way of traditional family values. And what are family values exactly? They are the social, moral and ethical behavior that are imparted in a family set up through speech, actions, and behavior. It is these important family values that we will be discussing in the AptParenting article that follows.
Family Values List
There are instances in which family values are influenced by cultures. Though different cultures give importance to different values, the root and the base of family values are mostly even throughout the world, because what they have at their base is something very primal. This includes how to be a better human being so that one can adjust well in society. Given below is a list of family values that are stressed upon in life.
Love and Respect
With love and respect, most barriers in relationships are solved. And this works not only at the level of the family, but also at the societal levels. Love and respect allows you to be human and accept people and things in society, to feel a bonding and therefore becoming a part of society in the true sense of the word.
Communication solves most problems in any relationship and lends to healthy relationships that do not have at their base, misunderstandings and other negative emotions. Developing the ability to talk and communicate with others the problems that you face so that you can aim at a better relationship becomes an important value to learn.
Understanding others, being sensitive to their needs, and being emphatic to their sorrows is something that makes a good human being. One cannot live as a single entity in society, which means that in order to live well with others, he has to be sensitive to their needs and wants and therefore this forms for an important value in society.
Egocentricity or selfishness are traits that take you away from exemplifying what a good human being is. Sharing facilities and things with others is a trait that not only makes for a good human but also allows one to be well settled in society.
We aren't born clones of the other and therefore there are bound to be differences in the way each person thinks and acts. More over, every culture will influence a person's behavior and provide an individual with different traits, habits, and values. An individual who lives as a part of society therefore needs to develop the quality of not only tolerating those differences but accepting them as well, and making them work.
Being honest and true to yourself allows you the credibility and integrity as a person, and that reflects in your work and habits. It automatically allows you to be respected and appreciated in society and there is a sense of pride that you feel.
There really is no substitute for hard work and there should not be any, either. When it comes to instilling values in children, they should be taught that nothing comes in easy and there has to be hard work put in if they want to achieve something in life. Learning this trait early on prepares you for life's challenges and trials.
The ability to forgive others for hurting you is a trait that only a few can develop, but it is a very, very important trait nonetheless. Forgiveness is letting go of all the negativity and the bad emotions, of unburdening yourself.
If there are different types of individuals living together in one society, there are bound to be conflicts, and being flexible and understanding others' points of views, not being stubborn, and instead being open, helps a person better adjust in society.
These values become almost inborn and innate traits that an individual develops when he is a part of a family. But along with that, parents and teachers can develop family value lesson plans in order to drive these traits and values home in a more unique manner.