Bringing up your child entails lot of responsibilities. Moral development of your kids depends on your attitude towards them. The atmosphere of your home, when lively and joyful, nurtures the bond that you share with your kids. On the contrary, the mental status of your child is affected to a large extent when he is at the receiving end of your anger and arrogance. Managing anger is a gradual process and for this you have to impose control over your impulse that throws you to rage and violence. If your child becomes a victim of your persistent anger, he also starts exhibiting the same behavior and retreats from you. Sheer turmoil prevails inside your house, making it uncongenial for you and your kids.
Anger management for parents involves practicing those techniques that are capable of calming you down. How would you keep yourself away from anger? How would you calm yourself? How would you handle complicated situations without losing your temper? We provide you the solution in the next paragraphs.
You cannot find a solution to your anger until you know the root cause of it. Introspect yourself and analyze the situations that make you angry. Try to feel deep down in your heart the effects of your unruly and unkind behavior towards your kids. I'm sure you will find out the answer. So, can you not avoid getting angry over trivial things? Can you not be gentle and polite towards your kids? When you start introspecting these things, the anger and violence within you will disappear automatically. Always remember that, being polite is much more divine than being rude. Until you realize your mistakes, you cannot transform your behavior.
Someone has wisely spoken that 'patience is a virtue, possess it if you can, seldom found in woman, never found in man'. True! If you tend to lose patience at every moment, then learn to cultivate it by any means. Parents who are intolerant towards their kids probably fail to realize its consequences in the long run. Listen to your child when he tries to express himself instead of getting angry. Never deal harshly with him even if he keeps nagging or bothers you with silly questions. Rather, try to divert his attention with subtlety or answer to whatever he wants to know so curiously. Indulge into meditation or start counting from 1-20 to calm yourself.
If your anger is arising from stress and pressure of your professional life, then you should know how to come out of it. There's no justification for parents getting angry on their kids without any genuine reason. Try to show up a smiling face when you step in home after office. Fill happy and express your happiness when your kids cling to you after meeting you at the end of the day. This very moment should be a stress buster for you. Stay cheerful, watch TV, play games and indulge into fun activities with them. Imagine and try to perceive their emotions as well, instead of staying grumpy and pondering on your own problems.
Keep your children away from your personal conflicts. For an example, if your children are witnessing the fights that you get into regularly with your spouse or other members of the family, then they will soon absorb your behavior. No matter how grave the situation is, never precipitate your anger on them. Try to sort out matters in their absence or somewhere else. Other than patience, you should also learn to remain silent at times. Instead of scolding your kids, deal softly with them. Forgive their mistakes rather punishing them. These are some ways to handle complicated situations.
The techniques explained in this article are very easy to practice. Books on effective parenting and managing anger are also of immense help. Anger is such an emotion, that affects the individual displaying it more than the person on whom he is angry. You can feel the difference in your health and mind when you have gained complete control over your anger. You should share a more friendly and amicable relationship with your child rather than confining him into strict disciplines, austere principles and stringent rules. Last but not the least, I must mention that children who have had a good upbringing are psychologically healthier than those who have witnessed the wrath of their parents and have been treated harshly in their childhood.