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10 Bad Parenting Habits Every Parent Needs to Break

Titli Farooqi Aug 6, 2019
We all want our kids to be kind, confident, and assertive. It is hard to teach them all these different behaviors. We miss providing them learning opportunities when we develop some bad parenting habits.

1. Criticizing All the Time

Frequent criticism leads to defiance and being secretive. Your kid can withdraw, which will ruin your relationship with them. Kids may feel demoralized and helpless.

Parents should try to focus on their kids’ accomplishments rather than only picking on their faults.

2. Complaining

Parenting isn’t easy. If you whine of how tired you are, how you don't have time for yourself, or how expensive it is to raise a kid, you are creating an unhealthy environment for your kid.
They will feel stressed and anxious. They will start wondering if they are the reason you are tired and if you feel better off without them. If you need a listening ear, make sure your kids are out of earshot, or choose the right audience.

3. Breaking Promises

The parent-child relationship highly depends on trust. Kids naturally trust that parents have their back.

If you want to jump onto the bandwagon of monitoring their digital devices with Xnspy or other parental control, make sure you take their consent beforehand.
Don’t make a promise you can’t keep. Otherwise, kids feel neglected and unvalued. They might also grow up to become promise-breakers. Start by keeping those little promises you make to them. If you have promised your kid a trip to the museum next weekend, make sure you keep that promise.

4. Speaking Ill of Others

Badmouthing your partner, colleagues, or relatives in front of kids is a bad practice. Your words can change their perception of that person immediately, and as a result, it can damage their relationship.
Calm down, so you won’t show anger in front of your kids. If you are angry, it is human nature to want to vent, but choose your audience sensibly.

5. Overscheduling

When you sign your kid up for chess-club, scouts, or a music class, your intentions are good. But over-scheduling will never benefit your kids. In fact, they will feel pressured and exhausted. It can cause stress, anxiety, and destructibility.
Give them time and space to learn how to deal with boredom. Let them exercise their creativity and learn to manage frustration.

6. Hovering too much

Do you interfere and approve who your kids could be friends with? Do you make sure they are doing their homework perfectly every time? It’s alright to ascertain that your kids are not having wrong company, but choosing their friends for them is an example of hovering too much over your kids’ lives.
This could have bad to worst effect on your children depending on how sensitive they are. Many kids may gain emotional resilience and develop low self-esteem. Such kids fail to develop essential
 life skills.
Let your kids make their own decisions. Be transparent and give them credit for their own ideas and ways of doing things. Don't try to vaccinate wisdom.

7. Constant Comparison

Negative comparison and public shaming can affect brain development of your kid. It might lead to mental anguish, depression, and low self-esteem in them. Kids feel humiliated by their parents. You should identify the unique strengths of your kid and cultivate appreciation for them.

8. Not Setting Clear Rules

It is important to set clear boundaries so that your kid knows what he can and cannot do. Don’t assume that your kid knows these rules. Explain why you have made the rules. Involve them in making house rules and ensure that you are consistent with enforcing them.

9. Over-Pampering

Giving kids whatever they ask for, can give them a sense of entitlement. You do too much by helping your kid in every task, project, or problem.

Overindulging in your kids can cause adverse effects. For instance, such kids learn that if they fail at something, their parents will save them.
Let them try. Let them learn from their own mistakes. Put your hands in your pocket and mouths on mute, and let your kid’s ideas unfold.

10. Overreacting

When you overreact on his skinned knee, he will, too. He spills half the bottle of milk on the kitchen counter, and you immediately fly into a fury.
Your overreaction to his mistakes will make him feel guilty, so he will burst into tears, which will exacerbate the tension even more. Parents should always try to respond calmly to their kids’ mistakes.
Bad parenting can suppress the personality of your children. Those who grow up with bad parents end up developing bad habits. Recognizing when you need to make an adjustment in your behavior goes a long way towards being the parent your child needs.